Online Text Games: Who's Your Daddy?
by J. Dearborn
Once more the happy time of Fathers Day has come around. It was only when this fact was brought to my attention that I realised just how much my text based role play character has aided me in better relationships with my own father. Now hold off carting me off to the funny farm just long enough so that I can explain. Growing up I had many ups and downs with my father. Every single one of us have. Some more ups and downs than others.
Looking back on it with age and experience under my belt, I see the sillyness. Things like I wanted money to go out and he wouldn’t let me. Or the first time you try beer and smoking behind the old shed, and his hand comes down on your shoulder out of nowhere. Maybe you brought home some boy/girl, and your dad keeps finding an excuse to enter your room every 10 minutes. These examples are but a few that some of you may be able to relate to, and in the fullness of time you may or may not agree with how he reacted in those situations.
I don't have any children in real life. However, roleplaying a dad in text games has allowed me to put myself in my father's shoes. I'm aware that vivisecting your text game kids for mouthing off or giving them protective buffs so they can go out and slay orcs isn't exactly close to home in real life. However the principles to the parenthood are still valid.
I remember my growing up in real life and draw experience from that, seeing how my children in the game were growing and what they needed. Sometimes I’ve had to put the foot down on things and when they have ran off and done it anyway they found out I was right. Other times they’ve done it anyway and I’ve been wrong and had to make it look like it was my master plan all along - after all, the key is consistency.
The role play aspect has allowed me to have better communications with my own male parental unit. I’ve been able to see his view and take a good guess as to his reasoning. When dealing with my text game children, I roleplay that I'm my father and how would I feel. It's worked out pretty well. This has all been possible because for several hours a day I’m not me. I’m a parent with a desire to make my kids strong, confident and able to kill anyone that gets in their way. Mwuhaha!
It's made me realise just how powerful the tool of role play is in allowing me to see things from the other guys point of view. Even though he doesn’t know this change has stemmed from a role play character in a text based game, I still feel it is a change for the better. Remember that the most profound lessons in life can come from the most unlikely places. Thank you IRE for helping me to get on with my dad better.
Hope you make this day the best Father's Day your dad has ever had, and don't forget typing DADSRULE will earn you 25 bound credits on this special day!
J. Dearborn roleplays a dad in the best online text games at Iron Realms!